Living Independently For The First Time: What You Need to Know

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Thinking of living alone for the first time? Chances are it will be one of the best experiences of your life, it won’t always be easy but you’ll learn so much about yourself and your abilities and it can help you to become a better person. Here’s what you need to know before taking the plunge. 


Get your finances right

The first thing you’ll need to do when you’re considering living alone works out if you can afford it. Living independently always costs more than living with others, so sit down and figure out exactly what you have coming in, and what is likely to go out. Things like gas and electricity, rent, water charges, phone and broadband, shopping, and a vehicle if you own one will all need to be taken into account. Find out if you’re entitled to any help from the government, depending on what you earn and your situation you could get some help with benefits or reduced bill costs. Anyone that lives alone for example is entitled to a single person’s discount with council tax which will at least reduce that large expense a little. 


Find a suitable place to live

Living alone and independently, especially if it’s for the first time in your life will require you to find the right place to live. Maybe you’d feel comfortable living close to family and friends, but the size of the property is important too. If you have any additional needs such as mobility problems, you’ll need to ensure the home is on the ground floor and if there are any steps and things that a handicap ramp can be installed. One of the main concerns lots of people have when they live on their own for the first time is safety and security, so finding an area and a building that is safe and low in crime will probably be a top priority. You can run postcode checks of any home you plan on moving into which will tell you things like crime rates and other statistics which can help you to make your mind up. 


Don’t be afraid to ask for help

Just because you’re living independently doesn’t mean you can’t ask for help if you need it. Whether it helps to move, helps with decorating, setting up furniture, or anything else, don’t feel as though you need to muddle through. Ask for help and advice if needed, in many cases, you might just need someone to show you how to do something once and you’re able to go it alone after that. Living alone is all about standing on your own two feet, but that doesn’t mean you’re expected to be a super human that suddenly knows how to do everything.

The Mindset Of Healing And Cancer


Cancer is a disease that can strike anyone at any time, without warning. Not only that, but it’s a pernicious condition that grows from dysregulation of your own body. It’s a part of you, but one that isn’t good for your body and mind as a whole. 


Research, however, suggests that the way that we react to a cancer diagnosis can have a profound impact on how we heal, both emotionally and physically. 


On hearing of their cancer diagnosis, people react in a variety of ways. Some bury their feelings of fear and despair, trying to promote feeling positive as much as they can. Others immediately reach out for help of others, getting them to assist them through the most challenging times. Some hide under the blanket, hoping the problem will go away but knowing deep down that it won’t – not until they’ve completed cancer treatment, anyway. 

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So if you have cancer, how do you get through it? What mindset should you adopt to maximize the chance of success? 


Live For The Day 


People often talk about “thriving” as an essential prerequisite for a long and healthy life, but what does it mean? 


For many, thriving is living life to the full every day that you’re alive and not missing out on opportunities as they present themselves. For instance, it could mean joining a club, changing directions, committing to new mental habits, starting a relationship, or doing volunteer work. It could be anything that you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t do before your diagnosis. 


While doing all of this might sound reckless in the face of a cancer diagnosis, it can help you enormously when it comes to living a full and worthwhile life. The more people in your life to who you contribute positively, the more fulfilled you’ll feel. 


Don’t Spend Too Much Time With Doctor Google

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While Google is helpful most of the time, it can be a nightmare when you have a cancer diagnosis. The last thing you want to be doing is spending your days worrying about your diagnosis and whether people in a similar predicament have survived or not. 


Remember, your body is unique. The way cancer interacts with your body, and your medical treatment will be different from somebody else. Sometimes, that’s a good thing; other times, it’s terrible. You just don’t know. 


Don’t Feel You Have To Fight Cancer

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People often talk about the “fight against cancer” or how a specific person “lost their fight with cancer.” We don’t talk about any other disease in this way. It makes it seem as if it is something that you can fight when the truth is that often it isn’t.


That isn’t to say that there is no hope – there is always hope. It just means, however, that the way you think about cancer needs to change. Willpower is not enough to beat a formidable disease like this, but feeling content, no matter what your situation, can help. The happier you are throughout your treatment, the better your odds.