Convincing Your Parents To Move Into Assisted Living

As we get older, living independently can get harder. If your parents are beginning to struggle, it can be very difficult for both you and them. An assisted living facility can be the safest place for them to be, but elderly people won’t always like the idea of this. They might worry about losing independence or dignity, especially if they are already using an all-terrain mobility scooter, but you can help them to feel better about the idea.


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Number #1

First, approach the topic in the right way. Don’t bring it up as though you have already decided for them. Instead, mention that there might be some options available to make their life easier and more fun. 

Number #2

Some spend time together researching assisted living centers like Aegis Living. Offer to take your parents for a visit to see what they like and don’t like about the options nearby. If they’re willing to go, this is great, but don’t push the subject if they’re not. Drop the subject and try again another day.  

Number #3

Use a teachable moment to encourage. If one of your parents has had a fall or is beginning to struggle with tasks like cooking or getting dressed, use this to gently raise the subject again. Point out how lucky they are that it wasn’t a bigger issue, and ask what they would do if things got worse or they were hurt in an accident. Don’t frighten them, but encourage them to consider who would look after them. This might encourage them to reconsider thinking about living somewhere where they would have access to more help. Go gentle, but a reality check could be a big help. 

Number #4

Try not to push too hard. While it’s important to get them the help they need, pushing too hard will have the opposite effect. Pick your moments. For example, if your mother is complaining that they don’t see their friends as often, or your father is unhappy with managing the garden at home, use this to gently broach the subject. This can help them to feel they are making this decision themselves and for the right reasons. If they’re in control, the process will be much smoother. 

Number #5

Ask your friends to see if anyone you know has an elderly relative who is doing well in a local assisted living community. Do your parents have friends who have already made the move themselves? Get these people to talk to your parents and tell them about the good parts of these communities. They can discuss their worries with someone who understands and can better put their minds at ease. Knowing someone in the facility can help too, as they will already know someone and find it much easier to make friends when they arrive. 


If you can’t find a facility where they will already know someone, find somewhere that offers the sort of activities they enjoy. If they can settle in and get to know the other residents through cards, dance classes, or a gardening club, they’re sure to settle in much faster.

Tips For Making Kids Happy in Their New Home

Anyone who’s seen Pixar’s outstanding movie Inside Out can tell you just how stressful moving home can be for kids of any age. Especially if the move takes them away from their support network of school, friends, and extracurricular activities like sports and the arts. Everything may seem the same to you in your new home with similar amenities and attractions… but in the eyes of your child, you might as well have relocated to Mars.

The unfortunate truth is that even if you’ve taken all the right steps to manage a smooth, predictable, and (relatively) stress-free move, even if you used the best moving and storage companies, and even if you’ve taken every possible care to minimize disruption, the truth is that the prospect of settling happily into their new home may seem impossible for your child. Especially if they’re already navigating those challenging teen or preteen years. 


Here are some ways to make it easier for your youngsters to settle down and enjoy life in their new home…


Accentuate the positives


There’s a lot to get excited about when it comes to moving home, even if the idea of starting afresh in a new town, city, or state is daunting. It’s up to you to accentuate the positives and help them focus less on the negatives. Draw attention to the coolest things about your new house. Help them get excited about decorating their room however they want. Show them cool attractions that you know they’ll love like the local mall, movie theater, or sports stadium. Help them to visualize a better, happier life for themselves and the whole family. 


Listen to them when they tell you about the negatives


Of course, hewing closely to the positives doesn’t mean that you should jam your fingers in your ears when they pipe up about the negatives. Listening is one of the most important skills a parent can have. If your child feels like their opinion is invalidated by a parent they are likely to view the move as an even more negative prospect. 


Let them vent about their anxieties and frustrations before telling them in a calm and measured way what you can do together to help them feel better about it. 


Make yourselves a part of your new community


The family as a whole will find the whole move much easier if you form close links with the greater community as soon as possible. Encourage your son or daughter to sign up for sports teams or acting classes or whatever else they love to do in their free time. Find a local church and help your child make friends among the other parishioners. Give them a nice busy schedule to help them to weave themselves into the fabric of their new community.


But don’t burn bridges in your old community


Of course, that doesn’t mean that you should encourage your child to cut ties with their old friends. You should still encourage Skype chatting with their old friends and arrange visits and sleepovers if feasible.


While it may take a little while, eventually your child can come to realize that moving might just be the best thing that could have happened to them.