Helping Out Elderly Loved Ones In Your Life

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Home Care VS Nursing Home: Which Does Your Relative Need?

One of the hardest decision that you have to make as an adult is when to get additional help for an ill relative. When a relative can no longer care for themselves, you are in a very difficult position. There are two avenues to go down when you have a relative who is sick and you can’t manage their care on your own. You have to know what’s right for you and your relative, and they won’t always be the same thing. Sometimes, when you have your own family and a job to consider, you can’t take on a sick relative, too.

 

You need to assess the benefits in front of you for each option. Choosing between home care and nursing homes isn’t easy, but it’s easier when you know what the differences in care are. It’s important to do your research thoroughly because you’ll come across reports about nursing home abuse and what it entails, which can be scary to read. However, while not every home has staff that behaves in an unprofessional way, a home isn’t always the right way to go. So, what are the differences?

 

Home Care

The private option of home care allows your relative to be in their own home and receiving the care that they need. There is less disruption in their daily life, which can improve their quality of life. Many families prefer this option because those who have lived in their homes their entire lives won’t have to leave. Home care allows for a better, one-on-one carer/patient relationship as well as being in a familiar environment. Seniors can be more independent and home care can be less expensive. The one downside? They’re not particularly secure, and the cost of around the clock care can be high.

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Care Home

Sometimes, a relative needs more concentrated care. They need to be in an environment where nurses are on hand all day, and if suffering with dementia or Alzheimer’s, they need to be somewhere they can rely on and feel safe. Nursing homes have doctors on hand as well as comprehensive activity staff available to help them to stay entertained and fulfilled. This type of care isn’t always something that you can give, which is why a care home can often be the best place. The downside to a care home is that independence isn’t always gained in a care home; there are schedules that need to be followed and this isn’t something that is found when in their own home. A nursing home can often be quite expensive, and the care isn’t always as personal.

 

The one thing that you should always remember is that by making this decision, you are doing the very best thing for your relative. It’s not a decision that anyone should have to make, but it’s a part of life and having the strength to decide on care for a family member is a big deal. Never forget that you need to take care of yourself, too.

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Signs that your Elderly Parent needs More Help Around the Home

A lot of people see their parents every single week. They take the grandkids, have a coffee and even spend time with them. One problem that some people have however is that they don’t realize that their elderly parents are no longer coping with life at home. They may not be able to stay on top of the washing up, have lower than normal hygiene levels or simply have difficulty paying bills. Unless you look out for these signs, they will probably go unnoticed for long periods of time and this can have an effect on the whole family. If you want to stop things like this from happening, then look below.

 

Lower than Normal Hygiene Standards

 

If you see dishes that haven’t been washed, out of date food piling up in the fridge or a messy home in general then this could be a sign that the tasks of daily living are becoming too much for them. This is especially the case if they are living alone. If this is the case then you need to broach the subject carefully. It is very easy to take offense to comments like this, regardless of how true they are, so take into account the feelings of your parent and talk with them when the time is right. It may be that they need a cleaner to go in and help them with their daily chores, or even someone to cook them lunch in the afternoon. Sometimes little changes are all that’s required, and when you are able to look out for some of the above signs, you can then begin to understand how much additional help and support your parent needs.

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Lack of Home Maintenance

 

Every home requires some level of maintenance from time to time. If you do not stay on top of this then the issues will only get worse and it may even turn a simple job into a complex repair that requires professional help. If you notice that your parent is not dealing with basic repairs around the home then it may be that they are no longer able to and that they now find it difficult to climb a ladder, hammer in a nail or even make simple repairs. This is especially the case if they were always DIY-focused and headstrong when it comes to home projects. If this seems to be happening then it may be worth looking into the other things they find difficult, such as climbing the stairs, doing the laundry or even sweeping the yard. If they are able to do most things around the house then it may be that you just need a handyman to come and do some basic maintenance on the home. This will save you time and money, and it will also stop your loved one from trying to do something that they are no longer able to do.

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Poor Levels of Personal Care

 

You may notice your parents aren’t taking care of themselves as much as they normally would. If you know that your mother would never usually leave the house without makeup, but now she has zero interest in makeup or getting ready in the morning, then this can be a red flag. Try and look out for little things such as behavioral changes, food being spilled down their clothes or anything else similar. This may indicate that they are no longer as aware of their appearance, and also that they are not able to do anything about it. You have to remember here that it is completely normal for you to feel awkward about broaching this idea to your elderly parent, but their reaction may surprise you. They may be relieved that you want to help them solve the problems that they are having, and you may even be able to make it easier for them to take care of themselves as well. Take the above, for example. You could look into buying a makeup set with a different applicator, or a bigger brush, as this could give your parent the additional help they need to take care of themselves as they normally would. This is especially the case when you are not around to help them. Small changes like this can also be a really big boost to their confidence.

 

Lack of Interest in Activities

 

If you see that your loved one has absolutely no interest in going out with their friends or even attending the book clubs that they were once interested in then this could be a sign that their mental state is changing or deteriorating. This isn’t always a sign of dementia, but it is something that you need to be aware of. They could be experiencing some form of depression or they might not be feeling as social as they once were. Companion care can go a long way here, and some carers would even be willing to drive them to their local club and sit with them while they are there. This can be a great way for you to try and reintroduce them to the things that they once loved, and it also means that they have someone who is medically trained to help them while they are there as well.

 

Mental Changes

 

Friends or neighbors will probably be the first to let you know if your loved one is acting differently. They may start to go out at strange times of the night, dress differently or even act aggressively for no apparent reason. This can be a sign of dementia, and if this is the case then it is well worth looking into a dementia careplan as this will help them to get the support they need. Ignoring signs like this will only make things worse for you and your loved one, and although it can be a difficult subject to talk about, it is required if you want to help them understand what they are going through. As mentioned above, they may even agree and want to get help for themselves as well, so you don’t always have to worry about conflict.

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Helping Out Your Older Relatives This Winter

Winter can be a difficult time for older people, making it more difficult for them to leave the house as well as being more susceptible to illness. While your relatives might not ask you for help during the colder months, it’s important that you make sure they’re cared for to help them stay happy and healthy. You can do your bit to help out your family this winter and make sure they have everything they need.

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Take a look at some of the things you can do to help out your older relatives this winter.

Make sure their homes are warm

Being cold can weaken your immune system, making flu and other viruses easier to succumb to in the winter. Help your older relatives to stay warm by making sure that their heating systems are working and being used, that they have good insulation and hot water. Portable heaters and hot water bottles are also good to have around to help provide warmth in every room.

Help them look after their nutrition

A hot plate or bowl of tasty home-cooked food makes a great winter warmer. Many older people fail to cook much for themselves, particularly if they live alone, so supplying them with some nutritious home-cooking or inviting them over to dinner could help them out during the winter. Using a slow cooker, you can batch-cook some great winter meals that can be frozen to see the whole family through the winter nights. Take a look at some delicious winter slow cooker recipes and get cooking.

Get them some additional help

It’s hard watching our relatives get old, but you can do your bit to help them live independently and make sure that they’re being looked after properly. Home care services in winter can provide assurance that your relatives are living in a clean home, with someone looking after their health needs too. Many people find it’s useful to have some home help all-year round to take care of those tasks that can feel like a burden for older people.

Spend time with them

Winter is a tough time for many people, but for older people, loneliness can really set in. Being too cold to leave the house can mean that some older people go days or weeks without seeing anyone, leading to all sorts of problems. Make sure you check in on your older relatives regularly. From phone calls to going over and taking them out, there are a lot of things you can do to help ease that loneliness. If you’ve got the space for it, why not ask them to come and stay with you for a while?

 

Keep a close eye on your elderly relatives this winter to make sure that they are healthy and happy. From making sure they pick the right supplements to ensure they have enough company, do what you can to help relatives in need. The season feels longer each year, so don’t forget about the older people in your life this winter.

 

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Helping An Elderly Relative Move: 4 Things To Keep In Mind

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Moving home is easily one of the most stressful experiences a person can go through. The sense of discombobulation, combined with the general chaos of the move, make the entire process a hassle from start to finish. Sure, it’s worth it, but the actual move in and of itself is incredibly difficult to handle.

 

The above is true of the vast majority of people, but it is especially true for people who are of a certain age. Moving challenges the very concept of home comforts for older people and can be particularly difficult to cope with if they have lived in their home for many, many years – not to mention all the planning requirements that any move requires. In addition to these basic challenges, there is also the additional complication of the worries you may have regarding overstepping boundaries and being too helpful – all in all, it’s a complex situation, but the pointers below should help you to navigate it as successfully as possible…

 

Ask how much help your relative requires

 

It’s important to address the issue of moving head-on with an elderly relative and ask just how much help they feel would be beneficial. If they are moving to form of independent living for elders, then they are likely more than capable of managing much of the move for themselves; whereas if they are moving to obtain a higher level of care, you may need to handle more of the process on their behalf. Either way, it’s helpful to ask how much help they feel they need, which also provides you with the opportunity to…

 

Make it clear you’re available

 

Use the above conversation as an opportunity to outline just how much you are willing to help with the move. It’s often helpful to volunteer this information and make it clear you want to help, as this makes it more likely they will feel comfortable asking for assistance if needed.

 

Monitor the process from afar

 

If your elderly relative has chosen to manage much of the move for themselves, it’s important to allow them to do this. Independence is vitally important to many older people; though you may feel tempted to step in and take control, this should very much be the last route you explore. Initially, it’s preferable to monitor from afar, asking them occasionally how they are managing, asking whether they have hired movers or begun packing yet, and gently reaffirming you’re more than willing to provide extra assistance if required.

 

Establish a budget if you are asked to help

 

If your help is requested, the next step is to discuss a budget for the move. If they intend to finance the move, you need to agree on a strict budget that you can work within when hiring movers or planning storage facilities. If you believe this budget is insufficient, then you can either discuss this directly or top the budget up from your own funds.

 

In conclusion

 

Helping an elderly loved one to move is often fraught with difficulties, and can be a difficult balancing act between providing necessary assistance and being more involved than they are comfortable with. If you adhere to the principles above, then you should be able to navigate this tricky situation in order to ensure the best possible moving experience for your relative. Good luck.

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9 Signs to Look For In Aging Parents

Our first priority should be to make sure that we’re feeling happy, confident, and that we’re enjoying life. However, this isn’t the only concern we should have. While life might be tough for us, we can at least feel that the future can be brighter if we make certain changes. The true might not be said of our parents, who can often feel left behind once their children have left home. And because we’re living our own lives, we sometimes can’t see them as much s we’d like to. So when we do spend time with them, we need to make sure that they’re happy and not in any undiagnosed medical difficulties. Below, we take a look at ten things you should be looking out for when you’re with your mom and dad.

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How’s their Weight?

 

The next time you visit your parents, get right in there and give them a big hug. Of course, this is just a nice thing to do – humans need physical contact. It makes us happy! But there’s another reason: you’ll be able to see if they’ve lost any weight. When people get older, they tend to eat less than they ate during their golden years, but sometimes it can be indicative of something more sinister. There are a whole host of health issues connected to weight loss in the elderly, so if you suspect that they’ve been losing weight, investigate further to get to the bottom of the cause.

 

Who Are They Talking With?

 

One of the simplest yet most effective things you can ask your parents when you see them is: who have you been speaking to recently? This is especially important if one of your parents is deceased. Loneliness in people in retirement is a massive problem, one that’s not as widely discussed as it should be. People can often go days without speaking to another soul. Loneliness isn’t just a social problem, either – it has knock-on effects to a person’s health – lonely people die younger than people who are not lonely, though why this should be isn’t fully understood. If you suspect one or both of your parents of being lonely, encourage them to join groups that cater for people of their age.

 

Struggling with Memories

 

Everyone’s memories can be faulty. But if one of your parents is severely struggling with their recall and are generally acting confused, then it might be a sign of a more serious issue – Alzheimer’s. As Alzheimer’s symptoms progress, the sufferer will begin to exhibit other unusual behaviors, which can seem “out of character” to people who know them best. If your mom or dad is beginning to show the early signs of the condition, consult with a doctor immediately.

 

Stress-Related Issues

 

A person’s golden years should be the most enjoyable of their life, but sadly, this isn’t always the case. Stress can be a real problem, and it’s usually because of one specific problem – money, or lack of. When you’re around at your parent’s home, look for signs of financial difficulties. Are they reluctant to put the heating on when it’s cold? Do they have a lot of unopened bills that look like bills? Is there food in the fridge? If the answers to all of these questions are yes, then it could be that they don’t have enough money to enjoy a good quality of life. If you’re in a position to help financially, then do so. If you’re not, then you can talk to the companies to whom they owe money, and try to establish more favorable conditions.

 

Lack of Meaning

 

Your parents have likely always had something to hold onto in their life. They were working, and then they were raising children, and so on. They served a purpose that was larger than themselves. Once they retire and their children leave home, these “reasons for being” are removed. Boredom sets in and can be hard to break out of if they don’t have any apparent motivation to move themselves to something better. You can help them to overcome this feeling by, well, reminding them of their value. They raised you, now’s the time to tell them how much you admire and respect them for it.

 

Difficulty Getting Around

 

No-one’s going to stay up and mobile their entire life. The body begins to break down eventually. While this isn’t necessarily the worst thing in the world, it does present some problems. For example, your parents will be at an increased chance of falls and other physical hazards. If you notice that they’re struggling to get around the home in the same way that they used to, look at adding some mobility assistance around the house, in the form of banisters, railings, and stairlifts.

 

Low Moods

 

Your parents are going to be dealing with big concerns in their life. Even if they were once high-spirited, eternally happy souls, there’s no guarantee that they won’t sink into low moods during their later years. If one of your parents seems to be depressed, talk it out. Some people can be brought back to the positive side of life with just a conversation; though of course, in some cases, more professional help may be required.

 

Changing the Subject

 

Older people are more set in their ways than the young. They can be stubborn. While this is mostly harmless, on occasion, it can be risky. For example, is one of your parents stubbornly refusing to see a doctor, even though you think they obviously need to see one? It might be illustrative of a deeper problem. Again, talking it out – with plenty of sympathy and care – is the right starting point.

 

Emotional Outpouring

 

On the other hand, sometimes otherwise closed parents can become unexpectedly open later in life. If your parents seem more willing to talk about emotional issues, even if it’s in the form of “confessions” of their life, then let them talk. It won’t always be easy to hear, but it’s better than they get it off their chest.

 

Caring For Your Elderly Relatives: What’s Your Best Option?

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When choosing the best form of care for your elderly relatives there are many factors to consider. Some options can be expensive whilst others may take up a lot of your time. Here are the three main options to consider and how you can make the best choice for you.

 

Investing in care home facilities

 

Care home facilities are ideal for providing professional around-the-clock care and can be the best option for those with serious deteriorative conditions. There are however large costs to consider. These can often be too much for many people on a moderate income – although it’s possible to have multiple people chip in. Rates vary from care home to care home, so it may be possible to find one within your budget, however, the cost isn’t everything. Many people want a care home in the right location so that they can easily visit or in a location that has personal meaning to their aging relative. The reputation is also important for many people. Online reviews and rankings guides are worth reading to help find the best senior living facilities. All care homes offer tours so that you can see the facilities for yourself in operation – it’s worth visiting multiple care homes to see which one appeals to you. Care homes can also be used for temporary respite – if you’re looking after your aging relative yourself and need a break, it’s possible to book a week or two for your aging relative when you need it. For senior relatives that are physically disabled but still able to make their own decisions, make sure that they have the final word in the decision process – they will most likely want to tour care homes for themselves and see which has the best services for them.

 

Hiring an at-home carer

 

Another option could be to hire an at-home carer. This way, your aging relative still gets to live in their home whilst receiving professional care. There are fees to consider, but these are less costly than a care home unless your relative needs 24-hour care, in which case a care home is likely to be more affordable than hiring multiple carers. All in all, at-home carers allow you to get on with your responsibilities without the high fees of a care home, although are often best suited to elderly relatives that can manage without full care. Many people hire a carer for the mornings and evenings for tasks such as getting your senior relative washed and dressed. As with care home facilities, reputation is an important factor and you should look into reviews and get recommendations from other people when choosing a carer. There are many private carers and caring staff companies to choose from and it’s worth interviewing multiple people to find the carer who you trust and get along with the most.

 

Becoming a full-time carer yourself

 

The final option is to care for your aging relative yourself. By taking on this role, you don’t have to put your trust in someone else or pay care fees. It does, however, mean giving up a lot of your time and freedom for their benefit – they may have to move in with you and you may have to quit your job or take on reduced hours in order to provide the care they need. If you’ve got a partner or kids who still live with you, you may have to talk to them before jumping into this decision as it could impact their lives too. There are several government benefits and grants that you can claim as a full-time carer, helping you to financially support yourself and you’re elderly loved one. If they move in with you, it’s possible that you may have to make various modifications to your home such as installing a stair lift or grab bars, but these shouldn’t cost you too much out of your own pocket as they are usually funded by the government. If your senior relative is only physically affected and is still able to make decisions for themselves, make sure that you also respect their wishes – they may not want to be dragged out of your home to come live with you, even if it does seem like the most sensible option. There are many counseling services that can help you and your senior relative come to the best decision – financially neither of you may be able to afford any other kind of care.

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Recently we lost Bella to old age, this has been really hard on my grandfather. When I stop by to visit, some days he will ask me to let Bella out. Some days he will talk about missing her so much. We are moving him soon to a retirement villa where we can keep a better eye out on him so getting another dog is just not an option.

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